Saturday, April 16, 2016

Love & Respect

This week, through my encounter with a unique chemistry of a relationship, has made me wonder, for once again, "what does a woman really need?"

Then I ask myself, "what do you really need, Felecia?'.

It is written in Ephesians 5:33 "So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband". A woman needs love and a man needs respect and with a perfect balance, lives will be so beautiful. So, the question is "what is actually love according to a woman's perception?"

love is when you are being honest
love is when you tell me everything I need to know
love is when you accept my flaws
love is when you embrace my feelings
love is when you put judgement aside and give me a hug instead
love is when you tell me I am beautiful
love is when you put your phone away and listen to my story
love is when you show up with a flower your pick by the street
love is when you let me cry and mess my make up
love is when you remember my favorite ice cream
love is when you share your steak and fries
love is when you hold my hand
love is when you offer help cleaning up my messy room
love is when you leave me a love post it note
love is when you ask for my opinion

To think about it, respect is also the same way
respect is when you are being honest
respect is when you tell me everything I need to know
respect is when you accept my flaws
respect is when you give me a space to process my emotion
respect is when you put judgement aside and sit quietly next to me instead
respect is when you say "I am your biggest fan"
respect is when you put your curling iron down and listen to my story
respect is when you show up with a home made lunch at the office
respect is when you let me be quiet and think
respect is when you remember my favorite ice cream
respect is when you keep your own salad and let me enjoy my steak
respect is when you place your arms around me
respect is when you help cleaning up my messy room
respect is when you leave me a love post it note
respect is when you let me make a decision

Now, the question is "how much would you place her/him before yourself?"

The Golden Rule
“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you"
Matthew 7:12 (NLT)

For His Glory~

Wednesday, February 24, 2016

The Time to See

A few weeks ago, the world captured a brand new Cinderella Story. This time, her name is Olajumoke Orisaguna from the land of Nigeria.

Source: TY Bello

TY Bello, a world-known Nigerian photographer, had come across Olajumoke by accident. She was having a photo shoot with an international hip hop star Tinie Tempah when Olajumoke, walked into the frame with a tray of Agege bread on her head.

Olajumoke had trained as a hair stylist, got married but had to leave her husband and a daughter back home in Ire, Osun state, to make a living in Lagos as a bread seller. Her life as a bread seller in Lagos is easily imaginable: exposure to the elements, to sundry abuse, including the possibility of being raped by unruly artisans and bachelors, who will offer to buy bread and something else along with it, if the hawker is willing. (source:

It was Olajumoke's reality until that day when she accidentally photobombed TY Bello's photo shoot for the famous star. Her life was forever changed. Today, she is a model and her story has appeared all over the world, inspiring millions of people.

When I heard this story, I was not surprised at all. I know who TY Bello is and for her "random act of kindness" to be published all over the world, I can say, it's time.

I met TY Bello back in 2014. It wasn't by accident that God placed us together. For a week, God gave me a chance to know her for His purpose to change the course of my life. Aside from being a world-known singer, songwriter, photographer, and philanthropist, TY Bello is simply a humble daughter of the King. Through stories that we shared together, I could see how much love she has received from God and she has for others.

TY Bello has the ability to see people beyond what others can see. I believe it was a split-second decision she made that day to include Olajumoke in the frame. She was being fully aware and quick to see a bread-seller with miss-matched outfit as someone valuable rather than a distraction. She saw something more ...

Through love, she saw a life.
Through an open heart, she saw a beautiful soul.
Through an open arm, she saw a future.

Though Faith, she could see

Faith is daring the soul to go beyond what the eyes can see 
-William Newton Clarke

TY Bello's faith inspires me. I realize how much I have missed numerous opportunities to see others simply because I was too occupied with myself, my business, my time, my battle, and my life.

The time when I could've given a smile to a stranger instead of scrolling down the Instagram feed.
The time when I could've said something to a sad-looking cashier instead of speeding through the check out line.
The time when I could've helped a mother with her three young children carrying the groceries instead of hurrying in the parking lot.
The time when I could've taken a few minutes to ask how a co-worker's day has been instead of running straight to the meeting room.
The time when I could've recognized a beautiful soul instead of worrying too much about my situation.

Friends, I am also aware that some of you might say "I am in need to be seen, how could I see others? I want you to know that your Father in Heaven sees you and nothing is hidden from Him. Trust Him enough that He is working things behind the scene for you. Now is the time to see beyond ourselves and be the miracle that someone is waiting for. Let's find more Olajumoke.

The time to see is now. 

For His Glory~

For TY: Thank you for seeing others. I am forever grateful for you. 

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

One Precious Soul at a Time

For you formed my inward parts; 
you knitted me together in my mother's womb. 
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. 
My frame was not hidden from you, 
when I was being made in secret, 
intricately woven in the depths of the earth. 
Your eyes saw my unformed substance; 
in your book were written, every one of them, 
the days that were formed for me, 
when as yet there was none of them.
Psalm 139 

I believe, King David, when he wrote this Psalm, knew what he was talking about. Truly aware of who he is in God's eyes, how he was wired, and how his days ahead were written even before he was born. Every time when I read this passage, I always cry, knowing that I am precious, my children are precious, the people I love are precious, and each soul is precious and delicately made by God Himself. 

Tomorrow, I will be turning 1 year younger. and for some reasons, my excitement entering 37th year of life is uncontainable. I have never felt this way before in my whole life! A few months ago, God told me to plan for my birthday celebration, which I have never done before. Yes, I am an event planner, but never for my own birthday. Then, a few days ago, God told me to turn the gifts given to me for others as a part of the birthday celebration. 

As you all know, women and children have been in my heart for quite some time. To love them and to let them know that they are loved is one of my purpose in life. I breathe to help women get the right mindset about who they are in Christ; beloved and precious daughters of the King. So this year, I decided to join A21in the fight against human trafficking by starting a fundraiser

A21 aims to rescue and rebuild lives that have been affected by human trafficking and actively operate with ten offices in nine countries. 

Families and friends, as some of you might know that my love language is gift therefore I love giving gifts and receiving them is my delight. But this year, I would like to invite you to something more: your gifts will free human trafficking victims and restore lives. 

From the bottom of my heart, I truly appreciate each one of you for celebrating my life. Together we're rescuing one precious soul at a time. If you would like to learn more about the issue of human trafficking globally, please check out the Human Trafficking page on the A21 website

With love, 

(direct link to the fundraising

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